As with all relationships and situations in our lives, we must look within for both the source of our difficulties and the solution. Reacting to the situation by getting upset will only entrench us more deeply in the undesirable relationship. Only by disengaging, becoming still, and going within can we begin to see what has hooked us into the mess in the first place. We will most likely find unprocessed emotions that we can finally fully feel and release into the stillness we find in meditation. The more we are able to do this, the less we will be bothered by the other person’s dramas and the more we will be free to respond in a new way.
Whenever people come into our lives, they have come for a reason, to show us something about ourselves that we have not been able to see. When unhealthy people try to hook us into their patterns with mind games and power trips, we can remind ourselves that we have something to learn here and that a part of us is calling out for healing. This takes the focus off the troubling individual and puts it back on us, giving us the opportunity to change the situation from the inside out. (Reprinted from DailyOm.com).
In my coaching work, the Empath Academy, and in my book, Navigating 2012: Thriving in Earth's New Age, I teach that we always have a choice to react (or not) to what life offers us. Empaths need to set firm boundaries and firm intentions as to what we're willing to do for others, and what we're not. Just because we have a gift for drawing out the best in others, that doesn't mean we should always use it.
And so, the empath technique for learning how to make disengagement from others *simple* is called "END with LOVE" and if you're interested in learning more, the full process is explained in the latest book.
(And many thanks for your super positive comments about the book!)