Monday, December 17, 2018

Dating as an Empath: Why it makes Relationships so Hard

The incredible thing about being an empath is that when you start to intuitively feel that something is going on with another person, you are usually 100% on the money. You can sense things long before your partner or loved ones might ever start to mention anything is going on. It’s important to honor this powerful ability.
If you are newly in a romantic relationship or thinking about venturing out into the dating world, it’s important to remember a few key points that will help you to maintain a sense of inner peace. Peace is important because it helps us to make clear decisions, stay grounded and to see situations with clarity and discernment.
Tips for Dating and Romantic Relationships as an Empath or Highly Sensitive Person
1. Don’t allow your romantic partner to demand more than feels comfortable for you. It is easy to get caught up in the excitement of a new relationship, and since we want to see people happy because it feels better for us, we must remember to hold our boundaries and just give what we can and what feels safe for us to give. We have a decision to make in every moment so that we help ourselves to stay grounded and centered.
2. Allow your romantic or love partner to express themselves in any way that they need to. Highly sensitive people may want to help their partners to feel good all the time. This can be unrealistic and even detrimental. Sometimes it’s better to just let your partner have the hard experience for their own growth. As painful as it is to disengage and just observe from a place of neutrality, it can often be for the best of everyone involved.
3. Find a place to get away to if you need to center yourself.
Being your best self is about taking care of your needs first and foremost. No one ever helped anyone else if they were already struggling and miserable. If you are feeling triggered or scared, the worst thing you can do is act out of fear. The best thing you can do is to find a place to reconnect to the power of divine Spirit and to allow that spirit of LOVE to reemerge.
4. Be patient and allow yourself to learn and make mistakes. So many empaths and highly sensitive individuals experience a high level of perfectionism. This comes from always being highly attuned to the energy of the room or the moods of our parents when we were growing up. If things felt awry, we learned to adjust our behavior to not make waves and keep the peace. This doesn’t allow for much learning though as we put unrealistic demands on ourselves to be everything for our romantic partner. Patience is also the nature of the Universe and we learn to grow in leaps and bounds by being kind to ourselves.
Finding inner peace is the focus of your work as an empath.
Even in the most stressful of situations, it is important to breathe. If you are having a disagreement with your partner and you feel the stress of the situation starting to make your muscles contract, breathe. This is something that we can do anywhere and anytime. 4 seconds on the inhale, 4 seconds holding the breath, and 4 seconds on the exhale is an ideal breath pattern to create a feeling of peace.
Allow the peace of the Universe to find it’s way into your life. This is the most relaxed place you can find and that place is actually the most powerful place! Functioning at your highest potential, especially in romantic relationships, is in your place of joy and relaxation!

Many blessings,
Dr. Michael R. Smith, Ph.D.
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Wednesday, October 24, 2018

An Empath's Dillemma: What is the 'Right' Career?

As human beings living in a duality based existence, we may often wonder what is the 'right' way for me to live? What is the 'right' job for me to take? Who is the 'right' partner for me to share my life with?

While it is understandable that our minds seek the comfort of knowing we are doing something in the 'correct' way, in reality, that is merely a human concept that limits our true expansiveness and limitless potential.

We came to Earth to create, and were given free will to build, grow, make choices that further our soul growth. In the world of Spirit, there is absolutely no wrong choice. God/Creator supports us in everything we do, even those choices lead to less than desirable consequences.

The word 'should' doesn't exist in the realm of God. Life purpose is something that is fulfilled simply by being in a body at this time on Earth and making decisions and choices, whatever they may be.

So let go today of any notions that you can screw things up, that you aren't living your purpose, that you might be doing things 'wrong' or that you are 'less than' in the eyes of the Divine. Everything is used for the betterment and good of the soul and the collective. Every decision is ultimately used to propel us forward into new realms of Light and consciousness.

With all the blessings for your authenticity, happiness, and success,

Michael Smith, Ph.D.

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Wednesday, June 6, 2018

You're an Empath Made for These Transitional Times

Now more than ever, we need each other as we collectively and individually transmute energy from dark to light.  The world is in tumult right now, and none of us are immune to loss, grief, unpleasant events that shock us out of the illusion that life is smooth, linear, and predictable.  Never forget that we signed up for these times! 

And right now, our feet our being held to the fire of transmutation.   Lately I've been generally experiencing more intensely a yo-yo effect, vacillating between energy highs and feelings of bliss punctuated by the perception of lower vibe energy.  All this experience is a reflection of the greater whole, which is pushing us to heal whatever needs healing, from this lifetime or other times and dimensions, for ourselves and our ancestors.  We are doing this for the Earth and all her inhabitants, and most of all, for ourselves. 

The belief that we can have a delicious sunny life free of challenges is an illusion.  Our challenges are our greatest teachers, and none of us are immune.  We are being forced by Spirit to face our shadows and limitations and simply accept ourselves for the flawed beings we are.  Whether your challenges are addictions, thinking patterns, loss of loved ones, loss of relationships, isolation, financial instability, know that you are going through this to learn a greater lesson, and that something indeed glorious is coming, and yet we know not when. 

The law of polarity is in full swing.  Spirit is connecting us, lifting veils of complacency and separation like never before.  Forgive yourself and your relations.  Know that as you heal yourself you heal others as well, and the focus is ideally hopefully on yourself first.  Never doubt that you are here on this planet for an important reason, and sometimes we are not allowed to know exactly why or for what reason until we have passed certain tests along the way.    

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