Wednesday, May 1, 2013

Top 5 Regrets of People Facing Death

By Bronnie Ware (who worked for years nursing the dying)

"For many years I worked in palliative care. My patients were those who had gone home to die. Some incredibly special times were shared. I was with them for the last 3 to 12 weeks of their lives. People grow a lot when they are faced with their own mortality.

I learnt never to underestimate someone’s capacity for growth. Some changes were phenomenal. Each experienced a variety of emotions, as expected, denial, fear, anger, remorse, more denial and eventually acceptance. Every single patient found their peace before they departed though, every one of them.

When questioned about any regrets they had or anything they would do differently, common themes surfaced again and again. Here are the most common five:

1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
This was the most common regret of all. When people realize that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honored even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made.

It is very important to honor at least some of your dreams along the way. From the moment that you lose your health, it is too late. Health brings a freedom very few realize, until they no longer have it.

2. I wish I didn’t work so hard.
This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children’s youth and their partner’s companionship. Women also spoke of this regret. But as most were from an older generation, many of the female patients had not been breadwinners. All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence.

By simplifying your lifestyle and making conscious choices along the way, it is possible to not need the income you think you do. And by creating more space in your life, you become happier and more open to new opportunities, ones more suited to your new lifestyle.

3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.
Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result.  We cannot control the reactions of others. However, although people may initially react when you change the way you are by speaking honestly, in the end it raises the relationship to a whole new and healthier level. Either that or it releases the unhealthy relationship from your life. Either way, you win.

4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
Often they would not truly realize the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved. Everyone misses their friends when they are dying.

It is common for anyone in a busy lifestyle to let friendships slip. When you are faced with your approaching death, the physical details of life fall away. People do want to get their financial affairs in order if possible. But it is not money or status that holds the true importance for them. They want to get things in order more for the benefit of those they love. Usually though, they are too ill and weary to ever manage this task. It is all comes down to love and relationships. That is all that remains in the final weeks, love and relationships.

5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.
This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realize until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called ‘comfort’ of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content. When deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again. When you are on your deathbed, what others think of you is a long way from your mind. How wonderful to be able to let go and smile again, before you are dying."

-Thank you Bronnie!   So much wisdom here for us!
Michael Smith, Ph.D., Inner Power Coaching for Empaths & Highly Sensitive People

Monday, April 22, 2013

Wise Words from a Woman of the Wind: Life Practices for Empaths

By Triza Schultz

"We unconsciously believe that feeling someone else’s emotions meant we were responsible for them in some way, even propelled by guilt for knowing what could be done to help resolve something.

What we never realized, and no one taught us, is that we begin to essentially take away another person’s need to learn to resolve their own problems for their own spiritual growth. We become interference in another’s spiritual path by jumping in and either volunteering to participate in resolving or almost forcibly getting involved through unsolicited counseling and judgments – not to mention endlessly dispensing tea and cookies, allowing our home to become a revolving door, while people are talking all about their problems with us.

That’s why we walk away emotionally drained, and others sometimes leave confused or temporarily obliging to turn their problems over to us! And when it doesn’t work out, they can rightfully blame us, and no one has learned anything. We become easy scapegoats.

This cycle must be stopped for an empath to begin to regain some balanced footing in the world.

That’s why it’s so critical to ask whether the emotional energies we are feeling belong to a personal situation and experience of our own only, or are we feeling someone else’s emotions/situation that have nothing to do with us?

Thursday, January 31, 2013

Follow up: New Generation of Highly Sensitive Men

For the 20% of readers out there who are men....(or the women/men who love them).

Here is a new post from Rick Belden following up on his previous post a few months ago:

Rick writes:

A couple of months ago, I wrote a post called “I am a Highly Sensitive Man” in which I shared some of my history and experience as a man who is a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP). My post was then reprinted on the Good Men Project website, where it’s been very popular, and has subsequently been reprinted on numerous other sites around the world and shared widely across social media.

Read more......

P.S.  There is also a good site for men, from Chrisi Brand in Austria.  Thanks Chrisi for the great work!

Wednesday, January 2, 2013

Weight Gain Related to Ascension Energies

By Jennifer Hoffman

Why are we all gaining weight right now? Our body retains water to help buffer the energy frequencies we receive. And we are also evolving as a species and are changing at the cellular level, shifting from carbon base to crystalline (silica) which is also why we have had so many food intolerances and have to eat a very simple diet (That is especially true for me and I have never had food allergies/intolerances before). It's happening to protect us, not hurt or harm us and while the weight gain is frustrating and annoying and it offends our vanity, it will go away.

The more intense the frequencies we're receiving, and that includes heightened solar flare activity, the more weight we'll gain to protect ourselves. And have you noticed that you pay more attention to your body when you see that you have gained 5, 10, 15 or more pounds? You watch what you eat, exercise more, you feel more grounded in more body because there is more of you to ground. That's another purpose of the weight gain, to keep us in our body.

 Right now we're experiencing intense emotional release on the planet and that affects our glucose/insulin balance. Have you been craving sugar in the last month (I have and it's something I rarely eat), our emotional energy is unbalanced, especially for those who are empaths. My guides said that cinnamon and chromium will help with this, so take those if they are right for you. And love your body, even with the extra weight, because it is just doing its job. This too shall pass, 2013 is going to be a much easier year for us.

With gratitude,
Dr. Michael R. Smith, Empath Coach