Wednesday, November 11, 2015

How to Dissolve Negative Energy Cords for Empaths

Many of us grew up with less than supportive or perhaps even narcissistic or abusive parents or siblings. I've seen it repeatedly in my 10 year empath coaching career working with empaths, in probably 40-50 percent of my clients.

Additionally, many of us have attracted narcissistic or abusive partners (love relationships) into our lives and are struggling on a daily basis to maintain energetic sanity. Sometimes our partners just suck the energy and life out of us, and they know how to push our buttons. Because we want to much to see the 'good' in others (that's our nature!) we stay with a narcissist or abuser despite the destructive tendencies.

So, I wanted to offer a quick but effective exercise to help you deal with any type of relationship that you'd like to get distance from, to heal from, or to get back in balance. When we interact with our family members, energetic cords get formed and they are not always positive. It is within your right to dissolve the cord so that your energy isn't being sucked or sponged away. It is important to note that you can dissolve a negative cord but still maintain the relationship should you desire. Just because you dissolve a cord doesn't mean you are doing any harm to the other person. Rather, you are simply removing the negativity from your life, which is your right, especially if you've taken on any of the other person's negative energy.

Here's how to do it: Simply imagine the person in front of you (for some this is hard and if so, then imagine them at a greater distance). Then, imagine a cord running from your solar plexus (gut) to their solar plexus (gut). This is usually the spot where cords are formed because this is the chakra of safety in the world and also the place where fear usually resides. Then, with your imagination, simply ask the Divine to help you dissolve the cord using White or Golden Light. Imagine the Light overpowering the negative cord and have it simply dissipate and dissolve. If you are a sensory processor like many empaths and sensitives, you can add an additional powerful step that I often do on coaching calls with clients or in my 4-week teleseminar class The Empath Academy. We simply 'clap' using our hands to imagine breaking the cord up into a million small pieces, obliterating it with our hand claps as if we were karate chopping it into oblivion. Many report this to be even more effective and feel an immediate positive shift.

Regardless of the method you use, make it your sincere intention to do it out of love for both yourself and the other person. This can sometimes be difficult especially if you are dealing with a narcissist, so pray on it and try to conjure a feeling of Love before you do this exercise. It is always best and most effective if we ask the Divine or Source for help and assistance with the dissolution of this cord for the Highest Good of all involved. This makes sure that we are doing it for the right reasons and with love and integrity for all involved.

For more expert advice about attracting healthy romantic relationships (or removing yourself from destructive narcissistic ones), please visit our friend relationship expert David Maestas website and sign up for his free newsletter and eCourse (scroll down the page). You'll get the first chapter of his acclaimed book Energy Balance, plus a relationship quiz, along with his amazing monthly newsletters.
Until next time, I wish you massive blessings of Love, Light, and Peace!

Dr. Michael Smith, Ph.D.

Tuesday, October 27, 2015

Empaths: How to Identify Your Life Purpose

In 10 years of practice as a life coach specializing in working with empaths and highly sensitive people, one of the most popular questions my clients ask me, whether it’s in private phone coaching or my 4-week empath empowerment class The Empath Academy, is the following:  “what is my life purpose?”. 

We empaths and highly sensitive people are such a soulful bunch, we’re always wondering what higher life purpose we can serve on Earth.  Many of us believe, myself included, that empaths exist because we can creatively use our lives to do one very important thing: help and heal other people.   In fact, the definition of an empowered empath in the Complete Empath Toolkit system alludes to that very core aspect.  After we have mastered our skills in energy awareness and letting go of energy that doesn’t serve us (phase one of empath development), then and only then do we really go for gusto with mastering phase two of our development, which is to engage our healing gifts to help other people.

Many of us believe, erroneously, that there is some pre-destined higher life purpose beyond what I’ve just outlined.  We are here, we’re breathing, we’ve managed to survive all that sometimes yukky energy thrown at us, despite the obstacles and challenges, and yet many of us are sensing that something is missing.   We plead with the universe ‘just what exactly am I supposed to be doing?”, sometimes with desperation.  Does this sound familiar?

The Universe loves questions, and yet sometimes that important question about life purpose seemingly goes unanswered, especially if it comes from a place of desperation.  However, sometimes it takes just a simple tweak of your question(s) to get affirmative answers from the Universe. 

There is indeed a higher purpose beyond your current existence, and yet it’s not destined by God, Creator, Great Mystery, or Spirit.   It’s up to YOU to learn to take a blank slate and co-create with Spirit.   So if you are one of the many that are asking that question, ‘what is my life purpose?,” l would ask in reply:  “What do you want it to be?”
If you were a client in my phone coaching work or in the Empath Academy, we would work to identify the pleasures, dreams, hopes, aspirations, and generally all of the things that bring about good feelings and good vibes in one’s life, and we ask the Universe for help in achieving and accomplishing all of those.   There is a special place in each one of you that is connected to what has been called the “God-mind”.  This is a place of limitless potential and it’s based on your unique DNA. 

Acknowledging this place, and purposefully attuning to this energy (we do this in session and class), is the single most important piece for achieving your dream life purpose. When you attune to this Source energy, an exciting shift happens.    The floodgates of abundance and prosperity open up and begin to deluge you with massive gifts of health and joy and peace and freedom.   This is what you can expect from simply tweaking your question to ‘how can I achieve and co-create with the Universe my highest life purpose in this life?’

You as an empath have skills and abilities that rival the greatest saints and the most advanced spiritual masters.  Know in your heart that you have those abilities and that you can share them with the world.  When the time is right, and if you ask the right questions, Spirit will shower you with a flow of energy in which you can tap into to create a life purpose that YOU want and desire.  No matter what situation has you challenged at the moment, always stay focused on the positive desired results.  If you ask yourself every day ‘what do I seek?  What do I want?  What do I desire?”  you will be working your magic and sharing it with the world in no time at all.

Dr. Michael R. Smith, Ph.D.

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Tuesday, October 13, 2015

Empaths & Sensitive People: Ground Yourself by 'Earthing'

As an empath or sensitive person, your ability to 'ground' yourself is probably the most beneficial way to cope with your sensitivity.

Here's one of the easiest and most freely available methods of all:  EARTHING.

When you touch the ground with your bare skin, an army of antioxidant electrons flow through your body to suck away the stress of constantly perceiving the energy of others.

When an empath is properly 'grounded' in this way, you will receive amazing benefits: better sleep, less pain, more energy, and a calmer nervous system.   This research is being spread by Nicholas Perricone, MD, among others.

Also, the Earthing Company makes products that have profound implications for you as an empath or highly sensitive person, especially if you suffer from chronic fatigue, fibromyalgia, lupus, electrosensitivity, and/or food allergies.  My own muscle pain has been reduced by 75% by using their specially fitted sheets so you can be grounded while sleeping.  My mother, who used to get two hours of sleep a night, now gets 6-8 hours a night. You can also use special grounding mats under your desk while at work, to help prevent and discharge the energies of others such as negative co-workers.

Visit the Earthing site and learn how you can ground yourself while indoors so that you won't be harmed by other's lower vibe energy.


Michael Smith, Ph.D.

Tuesday, September 22, 2015

Self Care for Empaths With Maria Pascucci

The following post was published in the EMPATH CONNECTION NEWSLETTER - September 2015.  If you sign up for the power packed monthly newsletter and eCourse, you'll get an amazing complimentary eCourse that includes a 25 page guide and audio.

Guest Post by Maria Pascucci
Certified Professional Life Coach
In our Western culture, overachieving at the expense of self-care is glorified. A powerful businesswoman recently featured in a national women’s magazine was quoted as saying, “The secret to my success is Starbucks coffee. I think if you’re willing to sacrifice some sleep you can do anything you’ve always wanted whether it’s writing a book or running a marathon.” A former NFL star turned motivational speaker said in a YouTube video that, “You gotta want to be successful so bad that you forget to eat.” 

But if you’re an empath or a highly sensitive person, you most likely can’t push yourself like other people do. When you skimp on sleep, skip meals, eat processed foods and neglect self-care to plow forward in your career or business, you shut down or get sick much faster than non-sensitive people. 

…And thank God for that! 

Here’s why: If you tune into your highly sensitive body for as little as 10 minutes per day, you get to create more energy in the present moment to manifest success. You also get to prevent serious chronic disease that all-too-often distracts you from fulfilling your Spirit’s highest calling on this Earth. 

As a sensitive soul, you have a unique opportunity to connect with your gloriously intuitive body and honor its messages instead of fighting it every step of the way.

I speak from experience. I have Endometriosis, a chronic women’s health disease where hormonal imbalances are a contributing factor. When I was 13 years old, puberty and the resulting hormonal changes caused me to break out with acne all over my face, arms, chest and back. “Friends” called me zit face. I began believing that I wasn’t worthy of love and belonging unless I looked perfect. So I took antibiotics for twelve years to bury my blemishes and disconnected from my intuition.

Once I began to embrace my sensitivity in my twenties, I realized that chronic acne and other health issues were simply my highly sensitive body’s brilliant way of communicating to me that something was out of balance. Guided by my body’s wisdom, I ditched the antibiotics, took charge over my health and changed my diet. I created the energy to lead as, what empath and sensitive coach Dr. Michael Smith calls, an “empowered empath”. I also partnered with holistic health doctors who were the right fit for me; together, we rebalanced my hormones, reversed my Endometriosis and cleared up my skin. Once I created the inner foundation to support success, it became a whole lot easier to generate it in my life and business! 

How would your journey to becoming an empowered empath be different if you connected with your highly sensitive body and honored its messages?

Here’s one way to get started:
Close your eyes and take a deep breath in…and out. Feel yourself held in a beautiful pinkish circle of light. Place your hand over your heart and open yourself up to receive the Divine love that has always been within you. Ask yourself:

When I’m connected to my heart’s intuitive wisdom, what foods do I really crave?

Do these foods deplete and malnourish you? Or are they cleansing high vibrational foods that restore your energy, honor your divinity and nourish your sensitive body, mind and spirit? 

Here are some examples of high vibrational foods: 
 All fresh, ripe fruit and vegetables (local, organic and in season is ideal)
 Whole, organic grains
 Organic beans, lentils and legumes
 Nuts and seeds
 Free range eggs and wild caught fish
 Healthy oils, like olive oil and coconut oil
 Purified water or spring water from the source
 Himalayan Salt, Celtic Sea Salt, or other mineralized salts
 Herbal tea
 Green smoothies
 Fresh juices

Benefits to eating high-vibrational foods include: 
 Healthy, glowing skin and a more youthful appearance
 Enhanced immune system protection from energy that drains you
 More freedom from the effects of overwhelm and chronic stress that holds you back from generating success as a sensitive soul* 
 Positive, free flowing energy channels 
 Heightened clarity and decision making
 Effortless weight release 
 …And so much more!

*Deficiencies in certain vitamins and minerals can actually create anxiety and stress, which further depletes your highly sensitive immune system. That may sound like doom and gloom, but the good news is if a deficiency in a vitamin can cause the entire body to stop functioning optimally, correcting that deficiency can lead to the whole body beginning to heal on its own. That’s the power of holistic nutrition!)

It’s not about counting calories, points or fat grams. This is about trusting yourself to choose the high vibrational foods that delight your taste buds, satisfy your hunger, flood your body with nutrients and empower you to transform your sensitivity in the greatest asset you’ve ever had! 

Then you get to pour out and serve others from your overflow. You get to role model the power of self-love and sensitive soul success to the rest of the world. Can you think of a better way to lead? 

-Maria Pascucci is a certified professional life coach, transformational nutrition coach, award-winning author, speaker, and proud sensitive leader. She empowers women to transform their sensitivity into an asset to reclaim their health, energy, voices, confidence and power. Visit to download your free Sensitive Soul’s Power Pack. Because it’s your time to blossom into the beautifully confident woman, leader and light worker that you were born to be! 

Wednesday, March 11, 2015

Why Empaths Who Struggle Are Always the Kindest

Guest Post by David Maestas, Relationship Expert for Empaths


The nicest empaths have always been through so much...
People like empaths who have been hurt their whole lives want nothing more than to live in happiness and joy. These amazing survivors have learned to see the light in the world because they have also seen the darkness.

If you've ever tried holding your breath for a minute, you know there is nothing more precious than taking in that first breath. In the same way, if you've lived a hard and painful life, and being an empath can be challenging, you find the greatest reward in being kind. You learn to give the compassion that you've always longed for.

I grew up in a tough environment. My dad and I had a strained relationship, and my mom was always trying to fix her marriage. As I grew older, I realized that I just wanted people to feel good. I wanted people to experience a different reality than I did growing up. I wanted to smile at people as they walked by, and I wanted to hug those people that mattered in my life.  I learned to show loving kindness because it made me feel good to make others feel good.

People like myself who have had to overcome emotional hardships have learned to be stronger and more resilient. Like plants that grow through the concrete sidewalk, we've persevered and broken through adversity as we've learned to survive and thrive, against all odds.

If you're experiencing any difficulty right now, maybe in your family or a struggling relationship, know that you are being strengthened by this experience.  You will learn to rise above the difficulty and grow in ways that you would have never thought possible. Without challenge there can never be triumph.  

I remember the first time I tried to run a mile. It was my 17th birthday and I vowed that I was going to start trying to get in shape that year. I was sweating and panting so hard I thought I was going to faint, but I kept at it. Day after day, I learned to grow stronger and by the end of one month, that mile felt like a block.

It's the same idea when you're thrown a curve ball in life. Everyone has something that knocks them down and challenges them — maybe your dad walked out when you were seven, or maybe you lost a sibling at a young age. These challenges are what make you strong in the long run so you can be that support for your family and for yourself.

If you've been through the trenches — if you know the struggle — you can learn to empathize with those who are going through their own challenges along with you. Loss, grief and pain are always going to be a very real part of this earthly journey, but with the strength and wisdom of those who have gone before, we learn to treasure the joy of living another day.

If you are burdened with having lived a life of pain and struggle, then you are lucky enough to know how good it feels to live a life of joy and freedom. You embody the power to be kind, loving and strong! 

With love,
David Maestas

P.S. For more expert advice about attracting healthy romantic relationships (or removing yourself from destructive narcissistic ones), please visit empath relationship expert David Maestas website and sign up for his free newsletter and eCourse (scroll down the page). You'll get the first chapter of his acclaimed book Energy Balance and Loveaholic, plus a relationship quiz, along with his amazing monthly newsletters.

Tuesday, January 13, 2015

The Power of Sensitivity: Success Stories book by Dr. Tedd Zeff

The Power of Sensitivity: Success Stories by Highly Sensitive People Thriving in a Non-sensitive World

By Ted Zeff, Ph.D.

Foreward by Elaine Aron, Ph.D.

In his new book, available on Amazon, our friend Dr. Ted Zeff has compiled 44 uplifting stories that have been submitted from sensitive people from 10 different countries. Highly Sensitive People throughout the world have shared their triumphs and happiness living with the trait of high sensitivity, which will help the international HSP community to learn new ways to manage their trait and thrive in our non-sensitive world.

After each uplifting story, additional advice on each vignette’s theme is given, which frequently includes specific information on how to integrate that story’s success into your life. So sit back and enjoy reading these delightful and inspiring stories from HSPs as you learn new methods to empower yourself.